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He heals the broken hearted and binds up their wounds.

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Inside the Book

a peek at the story

What Doctors Don't Tell You

The heart-breaking truth about what happens mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually during a miscarriage. A story of love, loss and hope.

Mental Health

A truthful narrative about living with depression and anxiety.

Marriage and Motherhood

How grief is navigated as a mother and as a wife. Included are conversations between the author and her three-year-old about the loss of a sibling.

Christian Living

The fight to remain faithful in life's darkest hour. Documented are encounters with heaven and hell, and conversations with Jesus.

Normalizing Grief

Miscarriage happens to one in four women. This is a story about removing the stigma of pregnancy loss.

Resources

A list of supportive websites and organizations for pregnancy loss.

Book Preview

A glimpse into Chasing Light

Foreword

Miscarriage—it occurs far more frequently than most people realize. It is probably far less understood than people know, too.

My husband and I, along with a wonderful board of directors, run a bereaved parents support group in Western British Columbia, Canada. Since our own losses in the mid 1990s, we have worked with numerous families for whom miscarriage and pregnancy loss are a harsh reality. The book you are about to read is written by one of those parents. It is the true story of one couple’s experience in the world of parenthood. Its candor and honesty show incredible strength and the desire to help others heal by sharing a mutual experience.

If you are reading this book because you have experienced a loss, my heartfelt sympathies go out to you. Know that the loss was not your fault! There was most likely nothing you could have done to prevent this from happening. Despite what people may say, a miscarriage is something that happened to you, not some-
thing you caused. Healing is something that will take time, so be kind to your-self.

Foreword

Miscarriage—it occurs far more frequently than most people realize. It is probably far less understood than people know, too.

My husband and I, along with a wonderful board of directors, run a bereaved parents support group in Western British Columbia, Canada. Since our own losses in the mid 1990s, we have worked with numerous families for whom miscarriage and pregnancy loss are a harsh reality. The book you are about to read is written by one of those parents. It is the true story of one couple’s experience in the world of parenthood. Its candor and honesty show incredible strength and the desire to help others heal by sharing a mutual experience.

If you are reading this book because you have experienced a loss, my heartfelt sympathies go out to you. Know that the loss was not your fault! There was most likely nothing you could have done to prevent this from happening. Despite what people may say, a miscarriage is something that happened to you, not some-
thing you caused. Healing is something that will take time, so be kind to your-self.

Chapter 1

Anticipation filled me as I woke that Monday morning. We had been waiting patiently for this day to arrive, the day we’d get to see our newly forming baby. I was nine weeks and five days pregnant and was looking forward to the ultrasound.

As instructed, I emptied my bladder when I woke and began to drink the required four cups of water. I wasn’t willing to risk having to delay the opportunity to see our little bean. My husband, Brian, and I had a short discussion about whether we should take two cars or one to the appointment. Brian would head to work afterwards, and so would I. Since we would be travelling in opposite directions, we decided to drive separately.

I couldn’t wait to come home with a picture to show Maliya and to tell her that she was going to be a big sister. We had decided to keep the news from her for fear of the chatty two-year-old telling everyone “Mommy has a baby in her tummy,” but we had been dropping hints for a few weeks. Even though she was only two, Maliya was very intuitive and spiritually sensitive to those around her.

Chapter 2

I’m not even sure if I slept that night. Feeling like a zombie, I got up with Maliya the next morning and kept my phone close to me. Knowing that Dr. J would be back in the office that day, I didn’t want to chance missing any calls.

We got ready for the day and had our breakfast, and my in-laws took Maliya out for the morning. My plan was to tidy a few things and head to work. Then my phone buzzed with a voice message notification. Odd, I thought, my phone never rang.

I was nervous punching in the numbers to access my voice message. There was only one call that I was expecting, since no one else would call me first thing in the morning.

It was Dr. J. My heart sank upon hearing that she wanted me to call her back immediately. By the end of the voice message my heart was racing, and I promptly called her office. It rang once, and Dr. J picked up with a “Hello?” This told me she was expecting my call too, which made my heart sink to my stomach.

Chapter Overviews

Chapter I

The hopes and dreams of welcoming a new baby and the ultrasound that changed it all.

Chapter II

The life changing call from the doctor's office.

Chapter III

Alone to process the news of an unviable pregnancy.

Chapter IV

The experience of being counselled on how to complete a miscarriage.

Reader Messages

testimonials from readers

Sharleen W. - Pastor, Thrive Church; Mom to an angel baby

Chasing Light is an invaluable and inspiring book that will bring insight, healing, and hope to those who have gone through a miscarriage or who know a loved one who has. Powerful, honest, and captivating, this book is a must-read!

Bobbi Junior - Author of The Reluctant Caregiver; Mom to an angel baby

Stefanie has the ability to step outside her pain and describe for those who haven’t experienced it the devastation wrought by miscarriage. Her story tells of the loss of a much-wanted pregnancy, but it also tells of the author’s spiritual journey. Most poignant are her conversations with her three-year-old daughter, as together they explore what has happened to their family. The reader finds practical strategies mixed in with the struggle as Stefanie tells of her search for emotional stability. The raw reality of her experience is one the reader won’t forget.

Michelle J. - Mom of three angel babies

Stefanie’s story gives a courageous voice to the silent cry of mothers (and fathers) whose hearts ache and lament over the loss of their unborn children. It brings to light a topic that is painfully concealed and difficult to discuss in our world. Her words come from a place of vulnerable honesty and are of comfort to those who walk a similar journey.

Dorothy T. - Registered Nurse; Mom to an angel baby

This story was beautifully honest and raw with emotions coming straight from the heart. Pregnancy loss and depression are not topics often discussed, and I commend Stefanie’s courage in doing so. As a mother who has experienced miscarriage, I cried, understanding the sadness and reluctance to seek support. This book gives readers insight into a world that many women experience and few talk about. I hope in reading this more people will feel like they are not alone and that support is available.

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About Stefanie

Author and Speaker

Stefanie Tong is an early childhood educator, freelance writer, and speaker. As a professional hip hop dancer she has performed at the Vancouver 2010 Winter Olympics closing ceremony and CFL and NFL half time shows and represented Canada at the International Youth Dance Festival in Macau, China. She has earned choreography awards for her work with elementary through university teams, modelling agencies, and numerous dance studios. After enduring injuries from car accidents that forced her to give up her dance career, Stefanie returned to school and pursued a career in early childhood education. Since 2005 she has been working with non-profit associations, and she is currently the preschool coordinator for an early years program at a local community centre.

Stefanie’s writing journey began after feeling inspired to share the story of her miscarriages. Her writing earned her a spot as a finalist in the 2015 Word Alive Press and Women’s Journey of Faith non-fiction manuscript contest. She is now a member of the editorial committee for The Journal of Early Childhood Educators of British Columbia.

Stefanie resides with her family in Vancouver, BC, Canada, and enjoys connecting online with her readers, where she shares honestly about grief, pregnancy loss, and parenting.